Some Things I Learned About Being an Elder
When Doing So for Jan
by Penny Yunuba
This is not to say that everyone has to do these things or that there aren't more. . . just what I learned. . .
Plowing the ground/ ripening the issues in advance
• seasoning the topic. I discussed asking Jan to come with Gifts and Leadings Committee and with Margaret Benefiel. (Might this help BHFM? What would we want? What would be the right time?)
• I asked Jan if she would be willing to do this, describing what we needed from the workshop.
• I asked for a copy of the relevant materials/ handouts.
• I made copies of materials Jan suggested and created a library special focus on this for the previous couple of months, using her bibliography.
• I announced the workshop at meeting or arranged for it to be announced - for over a month.
• I wrote a newsletter article about it in advance.
• I out it out on Beacon Hill's email list and that of Salem Quarter.
Helping Jan prepare
We agreed on some requirements - what dates would work, how long it would be, and I promised that we wouldn't ask her unless we had a minimum of 10 people who had promised to come.
• Jan requested questions in advance and I solicited them as well as keeping a count of expected people and sent the questions on to Jan.
• I listened to her after she had planned it to help her consider some of what might be done.
• I arranged for several other elders, whom Jan selected, to sit in waiting worship before and after the workshop with Jan and me and to sit on the facing bench behind Jan.
• I discussed the introduction she would like to have.
• I should have asked more about who was going to do the audio-taping since she had told me someone was. I should have arranged with them to deal with me (and what time they would come, etc).
• I should have asked for Jan's specific food needs.
• I might have arranged to have some water there on the table.
• I should have asked about what she needed in terms of a table. (room set-up needs)
• I asked when she needed to leave so I could be aware. (departure arrangements)
• I made copies and created packets for individuals and meetings in the Quarter.
• I arranged that Gifts and Leadings prepare food and arrange child care.
• I arranged for others to quiet the group in advance.
• I told her where to park and arranged payment of the fee.
2. On the day.
Before the workshop
• I arranged that Jan and elders got soup and bread in advance of others. (food)
• I sat with Jan and the elders for 20 minutes. (She talked about what she was thinking of doing and we sat in waiting worship.)
During the talk
• I sat behind Jan on the facing bench.
• I did the introduction.
• I held her in the Light (which meant for me that I didn't have the time to think about the implications of what she was assaying for myself or take notes for myself).
• I handled interruptions (seeing that there were enough copies of handouts and that the tape machine was working right).
• closed the meeting's final period of silence.
After the workshop
• I saw that Jan made a phone call she needed to make. (future arrangements)
• I offered to sit in waiting worship with her afterwards and did so.
• I gave her driving directions to her next engagement.
3. After the workshop.
• I tried to see what I had learned about eldering and to share it with Jan.
• I sent out the packets to meetings.
• I continued to hold her in the Light and appreciate her work.
• I wrote her a hearty-felt "thank you"!